Tuesday, June 29, 2010

co-sleeping

Well, the last time I wrote about co-sleeping, I mentioned how the days of letting my sweet one sleep in our bed were going to be short lived. It is a real comfort for me to have him in there with us, all snugly and playing with my hair, BUT, in case I forgot to mention... there's going to be a new baby in our house soon. I know, crazy huh? Just kidding ;) But seriously... the new baby will be nursed and I do keep my nursing babies in my bed most of the time. Even if they're not sleeping with us, I do nurse in bed and I already know from experience that it can get rather crowded in our queen size bed with more than one sleepy kid in there, especially with an squirmy sleepy kid.

So it's time to teach my boy to go to sleep all by himself. I read up on a few ways to transition from the family bed to the baby bed, and the biggest thing I saw was to take it slow and don't force it right away. Put myself in his shoes... going from a cozy warm bed with the smell of mom and dad and being all snugly, to a cold mattress with no one but bars and a big dark empty room...

So last night, I took Jonyn to the boys room, put him in his crib, turned on his Fisher Price Jungle Soother Music and Light and Sounds thingy (ok, that's not what it's called, but you get the idea. It's a magical thing.), and laid down on the bottom bunk with my Kanyon. Jonyn played for a long time. The reason I laid down is because at first I did try to make J lay in his bed and pat him, but he was more interested in playing and standing up. So I didn't force him to do what he didn't want to. After a while, he grew tired and would lay down for a few minutes, then play some more. He never really just cried, but would whine. And all I had to do was either say night night, or make a gentle shushing sound, and he would stop the whine.

It took about two hours, but my big boy went to sleep all by himself... on his own... it was truly bitter sweet. Tonight, we basically did the same thing, except there was a moment where he did cry and I did have to pat him. It wasn't that bad, he quit after I started patting him, and after a few minutes of it, I sat back in the floor by his bed. Again, he fell asleep on his own. It took less time tonight. About an hour and fifteen minutes.


I'm sad that this season with THIS boy is ending but I'm so eager to welcome the next boy into our family. Baby B will be here before we know it, and Jonyn will be a big brother and there will be even more hugs and kisses and snuggles to go around. I love these times in our lives where our house if full of anticipation of what this new little love will be.



ps... Congratulations (and the like) are NOT in order, because I promise, he is doing better than I am :( Co-sleeping has worked for us and it has been a beautiful thing and I probably wouldn't be changing things if a new baby wasn't going to be here soon...

Thank you very much, friends, and have a great night!

3 comments:

  1. Oh, that is the saddest part of co-sleeping.

    I'm coming down to the last few months (probably) of nursing my little girl, we usually co-sleep after she wakes around 3 or 4 am, and I feel the same way. But that really is wonderful (as hard as it is for you) that the transition is going so well for him. Neither of my boys transitioned well, and it made me feel like the worst mom in the world.

    Get lots of extra snuggles during the day!

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  2. I am glad you wrote about this... I am trying to figure out if i am going to try and put her in her own bed or just leave her in mine...

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