Wednesday, December 11, 2013

please stop labeling me.

there's this one label. and i'm so tired of it. it misrepresents me on so many levels. it automatically makes me unavailable in so many ways.

"you're a busy mom."

no. i am not a "busy mom." because when you call me a busy mom, you get it in your head that i only have time for my kids. that i do not have time for my husband. or you. or anything else in this life. you assume i can't take time for you. you assume you can't call me and ask me to hang out. you assume i can't make time to be something other than Mom for a little while.

but did you know that i actually have a life outside of my children? no? well, it's true. i am a jewelry lady. i have a hottie husband i like to date. i have friends i enjoy spending time with. i like to take photos and craft and bake and paint my nails and go out to eat and spend time with other adults and read books and have conversations.

but the second it's in your head that i'm a "busy mom" you start assuming i have time for nothing else ever, which is false. false false false.

am i busy sometimes? well, yes, of course. in fact, i am in a somewhat busy season right now. a season where sometimes i can't do too much extra. but does it mean i have zero time for you or anyone else or anything else? no. not at all. please stop thinking that.

and please stop calling me a busy mom. i am a mom. but first, i am a child of God. second, i am a wife. then i am Mom and keeper of my home. and because i am God's creation first, i have a personality outside of Mommyhood. i have likes and dislikes, i have wants and desires. i am an introvert who does enjoy time alone. i am a woman. a woman who enjoys dates. a woman who wants friends and has friends. a person. i am a person.

so, sometimes, i am busy. but i am not just a busy mom. let's just stop assuming all moms are just "busy moms". because we are people who enjoy things that have nothing to do with being a "busy mom."


  1. This post, right here, is what I struggle with most. I want friendships and connections, but because I have a hubby, 4 kids, homeschool and work outside of the home (and have hobbies), it's as though people don't even try to make contact, because I'm a "busy mom". Honestly, it's BECAUSE I have 4 kids, homeschool and work outside the home that I feel like I NEEEEED extra connections. Friends, other women, to help keep me sane. ;)

  2. Hi Brooke! I'm Heather and I have a question about your blog that I was hoping you could answer! Please email me at Lifesabanquet1(at)gmail(dot)com :-)


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